I’ve mentioned it before but it appears some aren’t getting the message.
So, for the benefit of the people at the back let me repeat myself
Erotica writers don’t want to fuck you.
I should just have to stop there and say no more. After all, erotica is a legitimate literary genre then basically you are asking an author for sex.
That really isn’t good form. I mean you might have the opportunity to meet your favourite author at a bookshop. You will probably say to them what the story meant to you, get the book signed and that’s it.
You wouldn’t pause and say ‘Aaand so you fancy nipping out the back for a quickie.’
Yet that it exactly what erotica authors have to deal with on a daily basis, and it can be exhausting.
Many will receive messages that go something like this
– Just read your story. You’re a great writer.
– Thank you very much.
– The sex scenes were so hot.
– Thank you
– I got very aroused
– I’m still hard now so…..
Look I know there is a growing sense of entitlement with consumers of entertainment but this really takes it to the extreme.
These horny guys are basically saying ‘How dare you arrange words in a carefully constructed sentence which has led to me having an erection. You are now responsible for it!’
It doesn’t happen in other genres. I stand to be corrected but I doubt that Stephen King gets loads of messages that says ‘That story was really scary. Now you must come round my house, check under my bed and sing my a lullaby until I’m asleep.’
There is a horrifically incorrect assumption that because a female erotica writer writes about sex she must be very much up for it.
If you honestly believe that then get your hand off your dick and listen up – erotica is mainly the work of glorious fiction. They are stories not invitations.
Writers like to engage with readers. It allows them to grow and improve. They just don’t want to see your dick with a request to fuck it.
Respect the writer’s boundaries. Unless a writer has in her bio ‘will fuck for reviews’ then understand the obvious etiquette.
Do not get sleazy in her DMs. Do not assume because they write about sex they are happy to talk about it in detail while you have a cheeky wank.
Just be normal. Just read their work, say if you liked it and leave it there.